I might as well just give up trying...
 

Well, a very interesting situation has popped up between me, my ex, and her friend Dean. Her other friend, Jenny, told me that dean had been calling her all the time, saying she's hot, and asking her to come meet him. Well, I passed on this info to my ex. Now it seems Jenny was exagerating a little (well, actully, a lot!), but she's not the one taking the flak for this, I am! Dean hates me, more than he did before, and my ex is extremely mad at me. I had decided that I probably over reacted when it comes to dean, after all, he obviously severly controlled her drinking, she only got drunk one night out of the almost 2 weeks she stayed with him. And if I know her at all, she sure as hell tried to get drunk almost every night, he probably had to tie her to a chair to stop her, heh. And I doubt he had anything to do with her going back on drugs, he probably had no clue and still doesn't. I wouldn't of found out myself if I hadn't have noticed she seemed high one time I was over at her place. I had to talk her into a corner to get her to admit it and tell me what she was on. I was gonna try to talk him into us giving each other another chance, but now, thanks to the position her friend Jenny put me in, that's probably not gonna be happening. I don't understand it, all I did was pass a message from Jenny onto my ex, and now everyone hates me. I told her exactly what Jenny said, yet I'm the bad guy, not Jenny. She made the incorrect accusations, now I'm paying the price. I don't know what to do. This is getting to be too much. Everytime something happens, I end up stuck between a rock and a hard place, and come out looking like the bad guy, when I know I'm not. Think I might just give up, and let whatever happens, with her life, with the situation with dean, and with my and her friendship happen. hake:

Re: I might as well just give up trying...
 

[quote="redhawk_six":42202] Think I might just give up, and let whatever happens, with her life, with the situation with dean, and with my and her friendship happen. hake:[/quote:42202]

thats probably the best thing to do in a situation like this

Re: I might as well just give up trying...
 

[quote="Capt. Albright":ce69d][quote="redhawk_six":ce69d] Think I might just give up, and let whatever happens, with her life, with the situation with dean, and with my and her friendship happen. hake:[/quote:ce69d]

thats probably the best thing to do in a situation like this[/quote:ce69d]

heh, yeah, role with the punchs and try to save myself

i think that u should talk to them and explain everthing and tell them u didtn do anything biggrin:

I tired that, I talked to them both on the phone, and sent him an email. On the phone, it was mainly one sided, with him yelling "what gives you the right to come around and say this stuff about me when you don't know me at all" and "get the facts straight before you go around making accusations". He never replied to my email, he probably just deleted it without reading it. hake:

The lesson you learned is never trust anybody, especially words out of a girl's mouth. These kinds of situations suck man. Last year my ex was going around school saying I beat her...wtf. At one point she had a lot of girls believing her, and man it sucked big time. Girls that I had always made laugh and befriended before shunned me. This all started right after I broke up with her. She started getting on some drugs and stuff like that, and eventually the girls realized it and apologized to me. See I didn't interfere with the situation, because while it did bother me that these girls (who a lot were fine) hated me for a while, deep down I really didn't give a crap. So turns out I am back to normal with these girls again.

I'll add this too...

[img]http://www.dodstudios.net/uploads/uploads/redhawk_owning_dean.jpg[/img]

Gee, I guess that's what happens when you accuse and spread information about a guy keeping
a girl drunk and stoned on hard drugs, and virtualy being a pimp....when in fact the opposite appears to be true.

if she wants to be a junky let her. i dont see why people always bugger in to situations which don't concern them. this is how wars always start

That's the thing, this situation does concern me. I'm stuck in the middle of the situation, and that's the problem. My ex warned me not to go near dean, she said that he said if he ever saw me, "there would be trouble".

[quote="Eight Ace":575cd]Gee, I guess that's what happens when you accuse and spread information about a guy keeping
a girl drunk and stoned on hard drugs, and virtualy being a pimp....when in fact the opposite appears to be true.[/quote:575cd]

I didn't do that, that's the thing.

All I did was pass on a message to my ex from her friend Jenny, who claimed that dean was harrasing her, when it has now become apperent that those "harrasing" phone calls actully consited of him talking to Jenny for a couple of minutes twice when my ex called her from his house. hake:

[quote="redhawk_six":8a1ae]That's the thing, this situation does concern me. I'm stuck in the middle of the situation, and that's the problem. My ex warned me not to go near dean, she said that he said if he ever saw me, "there would be trouble".[/quote:8a1ae]
then i definately would stay aweh...

[quote=Blitz]then i definately would stay aweh...[/quote:2c221]

Heh, yeah, he's 23, i'm 18, and he's twice my size, deffenitly not interested in conronting him.

Man that really gotta suck. So have you tried apologizing to that Dean guy?

he doesn't need to apologize, dean needs to (insert cliche here)

[quote="redhawk_six":f4491]Heh, yeah, he's 23, i'm 18, and he's twice my size, deffenitly not interested in conronting him.[/quote:f4491]

...erm, unless I'm misunderstanding these "Jerry Springer" style threads of yours...
I think an apology, rather than any confrontation, is what's required from you.

or a hit and run

...on the other hand,

ninty9 bitch slap that crazy nigga f00!

I have tried apologizing, even though I really don't need to. I sent him a nice, civil email, and he never replied, I doubt he even read it.

can he read period?

Bahahahahaha, nice biggrin: caught me by suprise with that remark biggrin:


Yeah, I'm sure he can. I mean, he does seem like a nice guy, the problem is I've given him a second chance, and a third chance, yet he won't give me even one chance. hake:

...have you considered suggesting a red-hot threesome*, as a way to maybe put things behind you,
water under the bridge etc.....remember, until you know exactly how the situation is going to play out...
only put it halfway in....whoever.



(*Or foursome, if that meddlesome Jenny is down with it. ed: )

[quote="Eight Ace":e1ea6]...have you considered suggesting a red-hot threesome*, as a way to maybe put things behind you,
water under the bridge etc.....remember, until you know exactly how the situation is going to play out...
only put it halfway in....whoever.



(*Or foursome, if that meddlesome Jenny is down with it. ed: )[/quote:e1ea6]

uh..... how about no.... eek:

make a pr0n d00d!!!

Have I mentioned that my ex is only 16... That would not go over well with the local authorities...

Well now that the inaccuracies of your first thread have come to light,
and your ex may in fact live to see 17,

...which is Dean actually doing.....helping your ex :-

a) to get on the Highway to Hell

b) straighten up & fly right

c) straighten up some & fly a bit better than before

[quote="Eight Ace":73dd0]...on the other hand,

[/quote:73dd0]
Haven't heard that cliche in a while.

I wish I could really speak like that.

[quote="Eight Ace":8f32f]Well now that the inaccuracies of your first thread have come to light,
and your ex may in fact live to see 17,

...which is Dean actually doing.....helping your ex :-

a) to get on the Highway to Hell

b) straighten up & fly right

c) straighten up some & fly a bit better than before[/quote:8f32f]

Don't know yet, it's kinda hard to tell, seeing as though he limits her drinking, he provides her with limitless access to cigirette. She got in a car accident while she was there, got pretty banged up, probably had a cracked rib or two, and he didn't take her to the hospital. He admittingly has a criminal record, and not for something small either, he was charged and convicted of sexual assault and providing alchol to a minor years ago. The thing is, I don't know for sure what goes on while she's with him, and I'm not so sure I can trust her to tell me the truth about it. hake:

Give us deans email addy, we shall spam zee fuck out of his inbox!!

[quote="Capt. John Miller":2751c]Give us deans email addy, we shall spam zee fuck out of his inbox!![/quote:2751c] ....on the same note, let's sign him up for some pr0n mail! freak:

[quote="Garry Coleman":39707][quote="Capt. John Miller":39707]Give us deans email addy, we shall spam zee fuck out of his inbox!![/quote:39707] ....on the same note, let's sign him up for some pr0n mail! freak:[/quote:39707]

Hell yes!! Thats the kind of spirit im looking for!!!!

[quote="Capt. John Miller":5a221][quote="Garry Coleman":5a221][quote="Capt. John Miller":5a221]Give us deans email addy, we shall spam zee fuck out of his inbox!![/quote:5a221] ....on the same note, let's sign him up for some pr0n mail! freak:[/quote:5a221]

Hell yes!! Thats the kind of spirit im looking for!!!![/quote:5a221]

heh, yeah, cos that'll help me smooth things over with him oOo: happy:

Seriously though, I don't know his email. I messaged him on this profile site for people living in BC, Canada, the same site where I first meet my ex. That's how I KNOW he got my message and just didn't reply, I saw his name on the "who's online" list.

He wont know you made us do it though, you b00n biggrin:

I could probably find his email though... evil:

Ah one of these classic situations. Seen it a hundred times, perhaps more.

Simpliest way to handle it, walk the fuck away. Seriously do you need or want the undue frustration of holding other peoples lives together when they dont even care themselves? If there giving you grief for trying to help just say fuck um and let them kill themselves. Your not there caretaker no matter how much you think you are, or want to be. Just leave them, they dont sound like people you want to be around anyway.