dilemma
 

i need help from the wisdom of the 14 year olds here..actually arkan would probably be better to answer this question...

So i met this chick at the bar last weekend and went back to her place and got my groove on and all. Turns out she has a 2 year old kid. The kid was not home at the time, cause that would just freak me out. Anyway, i'm going on a pub craw this weekend and I am trying to decide if I should give her a call to come because I know 100% that it will end up good for me if you know what I mean. Thing is, I don't want her to get the idea that i'm going to start paying her child support.

So what do you do?

Take the chance for some ass, or drop it and pick up on the pub crawl?

If you dont want the baggage then stay the fuck away dude seriously I know i have been there.

id hit it.

back away from that shit if you dont want children in your life right now.
you dont have to be married to her to pay child support in Canada! just to let you know.

there aren't many opportunities in life when you get to hit a MILF. Go for it.

if you dont want to be with a woman with kids, then you should let her know thats what you feel. if you want to keep seeing her and dont mind the kids then go for it. i dont know canadian law, but if you arent the parent, i doubt you will be paying child support.

just be straight and honest, she may just be looking for some guy to hang out with and not a dad for her kid. when moms start dating, they usually keep the kid away from view for their sake, not necessarily yours.

Pics, plz. Let your head do the judging.

tell her how you feel then jump on her

I wouldn't bail so soon, man. Don't worry about having to pay for her kid. That won't kick in until maybe after you become "common law". This would be the case if you've lived together for 6 months. Even then, I don't know if you're obligated to pay for anything.

Having said that, if you don't want a 2 year old sitting next to you at a Stamps game, screaming to go home 10 minutes into the game, then you might wanna bail.

Go with the flow

Man, you guys give the shittiest advice. This is what Arkan would do:

Give her a call and see if she wants to hang. Just because you go out with her a few times and get your groove on, doesn't mean you want to marry her. I'm sure she needs to get out every now and again and enjoy the company of a man. If it turns out you just like her as a sex friend, treat the relationship that way. She'll realize what the relationship is based on.....there really is no need to even discuss it. Oh, one more thing. Try not to get involved with "family" things with them. Give her room when it comes to her kid. She'll appreciate that.

So, to sum things up. Just be her "outlet" so to speak, nothing more.

Wise is Arkan in the way of the female. +1







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Id say no


in highschool (grade 12) I had this chick (not that attractive) Craving my Cock everytime I talked to her, all she wanted was Dick, I never got involved with her and never fucked her, because well Im gay.

no really. it was because she already had a kid and I just knew what kind of person she was, She was VERY clingy, she'd always call my ass basically for a booty call. ME a booty call! I knew if I got involved with her I would have to play a role as the babies daddy in some way.

Anyway, She moved away, and the last I heard of her was from a friend and he told me she has ANOTHER kid with a DIFFERENT daddy. whata fuckin slut LOL

thank god I got the fuck outta that one.

Have you considered taking a stroll down Queer Street?

Ark i know what you sayin but what happens when the kid want's "uncle Ninty".

It's a bit awkward to not get sucked into that kinda stuff

Why would you have to pay child support?

Go get a mail-order bride, that always works. If she's got a kid and divorced the dude, you're probably gonna be having to deal with the dude. And she might just dump you too, anyway.

You should of just tapped the shit and then ignored her...if she wanted your cock so bad...you could of forced her to do like every precaution a girl can do...and if you still ended up making her have a kid...tell her to take you on maury.

Ninty...I say...hang out again and see what happens...keep the kid shit on the down low...and if it looks like you're there for a daddy figure/financial support...kill her.

sluts like that are funny as shit this bitch I used to work with was like your chick craving the cock. But I knew something wasnt right with her
I saw her a year later after I left. Im like hows it goin

her response "i got a kid now"
me: "LOL"

child support laws are different in Canada than they are in the US, you dont have to be married the person to pay child support in Canada if you break up with that person. depending on how long the relationship is and if the child see you as a father figure

well, Im not sure if you know of that girl Shawn, It was Violet.

but now that I look back, MAYBE it wouldnt have hurt me to get a peice of that, I mean it basically was FREE pussy. would have made my life a lot easier rather than fighting for it like a dirty dog on the street like I do with that chick from work :(

I think what he means is (ninty), that if you do start dating, he would have to spend time with the child, and buy him/her the odd thing (toys, clothes, ect) and if she's stumped for cash then he'll be the the first one on her speed dial to call.


he wont actually HAVE to pay child support

only 1 kid?

for once i agree with arkan on the field of women (somewhat). theres nothing wrong with hanging out, she probably needs a male companion both hanging out and in her vagina. if you guy start hanging out alot, or just fucking alot; let her know what's up. dont let her assume, because you never know what could come of that (maybe she thinks its getting serious, and then shes gonna get hurt when she realizes you dont feel the same and was lead on in her mind). ntohing wrong with hanging out with her, as long as you both know what's going on between you two.

Ninty is a woman. rock:

yeha, i mean more like what buck is saying. i mean, i know im not going to be paying for her kid and all, it just makes a relationship harder. im not really looking for a relationship either. i was just a little concerned if i'm making the effort, she might take that the wrong way and think i want to get into a relationship, and normally thats ok, but again, the kid compicates things.

my friends are saying i should employ the "catch and release" program in this situation. I probably won't take her on the pub crawl, but i'll call her and we'll go stampede it up or something this week. i'll see how she reacts and if shes clinging on, i'll get rid of her, but if she gets the idea, then it might be a good setup. i guess i'll play it by ear.

this week is going to be tough for me. up every day at 6am and i'll be out most nights till probably around 2 because of the stampede. one huge ass city wide drunk fest.

thanks for the advice and opinions guys. its cool i actually got some thoughtful responses. rock:

Yeah. What the fuck.

Stick it in her POOPER and piss on her chest. There. Phew, everything's back to normal.

any tips for pissing on her chest with a boner?

LEAN FORWARD

Or stand her up in front of you. You don't get the "pooling" then, though.

Handstand.

lol, wtf? that fuckin sucks!

It'll get more awkward for you, if you have a conscience and she is a half decent mother then
a child is not something you can just forget about, you'll be pumping away and see a cuddly toy
and get a soft-on, or you'll be sucking those nipples knowing it was the kids lunch rack not that long ago.
On the other hand if she's not a half decent mother, do you really want to aid and abiet her in that.

It's sad that these single mums often feel they have to put out straight away just for some company.
Still, if you are happy to see her as a piece of meat then go for it. rock:

Dude dont ask this chick out again, you dont wanna get mixed up with a kid at your age

just shove in as deep as you possibly can and let that urine fill her reproductive organs. should at least be good for a yeast infection or something of the sorts.

I was hanging with an older girl who had 2 kids and they never wanted "Uncle Arkan". All you need to do is keep your distance from them. Don't join them for dinner every night. Pay her a visit when the kid is sleeping or when she has a sitter. A girl anchored down with her own responsibilities make the best buddies.

Oh, and Buck....you didn't fuck her because you're gay, you didn't fuck her because you were scared. Put yourself in the same situation 5 yrs from now. You'll be eating her ass!!

/me looks forward to seeing Ninty dance on "yo not the daddy" on maury or springer lol.

No in all seriousness bud you need to get it straight with her from day 1. Is it mates ans a fuck or is she after more? Stuff like this has a habit of goin really sour really quick.

I just laughed out loud at the 'pissing on her with a stiffy' replies, lmao.


But anyway, I've been in your situation and it really does mess with your head I admit.

I mean in Dallas with Mel a while back, I'm sure you recall heh, I remember sucking on her tits as she sat in her pc chair, me on my knees (building up picture) and I looked over her shoulder to see her daughter staring at me with the biggest 'stop biting my mom or i'll kill you' look on her face, ever.
She told her I was just examining mommy's chest and having a cuddle.........now that felt weird.

I don't know aboot the Canadian laws at all but I say just let her know what you want, tell her it's purely physical and that you're not looking for anything serious at the moment, I'm sure she'd understand.

If all else fails you're a good lookin d00d, you'll get more fresh fish from the sea. How old is she btw??


Just yesterday I had a date with a random girl I'd been talkin to online as I'd met her at work once so kept in touch, shes 30 but seems only about 23-24-ish age which was nice.....things progressed after watching Beetlejuice and then........

........[img]http://img133.imageshack.us/img133/7910/smallyo1yc.jpg[/img].....a few smoochies later, it went well :p

im surprised theres no "fucker her up the shitter" posts by Arkan.

Arkan is right.

Bang the mom, eat the kid and say a black man stole it.