Im not sure how to do this

1080jibber · **Im not sure how to do this -** 03-08-2005, 06:20 PM

There is this girl that works at FutureShop and im thinking about asking her out. Do you think its strange to ask a complete stranger out?
I have allways asked girls out that ive known, or a friend has known, I have never asked a complete stranger out before.

Im going to buy a couple of things on the weekend, and if she is there I might go for it. Should I just say "Would you like to go out for a drink sometime".
Im not to sure what to say, but I think just asking her to go out for a drink would be cool.

Have any of you guys ask a complete stranger out before? If so, what did you say to her?

03-08-2005, 06:24 PM

get to know her a little better, what if shes already taken...you dont want any black eyes from buff boyfriends or DDOS attacks from any nerdy ones, now do you?

Arkan · 03-08-2005, 06:27 PM

Yeah, it's kinda hard to ask a complete stranger out. The odds are against you. You should at least make your presence known before asking her out. Perhaps you should chat with her before so she at least gets to make an opinion about you. Perhaps go there earlier, purchase something and strike up a conversation. Feel her out...if she's receptive, then there's your answewr for later. If everything goes smooth, go back and chat with her some more then ask her to accompany you somewhere (drink, lunch...whatever)

You're not in an easy position....good luck.

Drew · 03-08-2005, 06:28 PM

Does she work a register?

If so, when you walk in just tell her you'd like to have a drink with her some time. Leave your business card and a pen in front of her and tell her if she's interested to write down her number and then do your shopping and check out with her. rock:

1080jibber · 03-08-2005, 06:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Arkan

Yeah, it's kinda hard to ask a complete stranger out. The odds are against you. You should at least make your presence known before asking her out. Perhaps you should chat with her before so she at least gets to make an opinion about you. Perhaps go there earlier, purchase something and strike up a conversation. Feel her out...if she's receptive, then there's your answewr for later. If everything goes smooth, go back and chat with her some more then ask her to accompany you somewhere (drink, lunch...whatever)

You're not in an easy position....good luck.

I was thinking about feeling her out, but wasnt sure on how to do that, or what to say since I dont know her and have nothing to go on. but the idea of returning to the store and not buying anything bothers me, and she does work the register, making this even harder, because if she worked somewhere else then I could just ask a question about something and then make some small talk too, with her working the register , I cant really take my time.

ninty · 03-08-2005, 06:40 PM

I've asked girls that I didn't know out right away. Maybe talked to them for about 2 minutes before hand. It works most of the time because I think most people don't want to say no because they'll hurt your feelings, unless you look like a total loser then the girls will say no because they fear for their safety.

Ask her if she wants to go for some coffee on her break or something.

Jin-Roh · 03-08-2005, 06:44 PM

Tell her she has a fine ass, and use ebonics. oOo: oOo:

1080jibber · 03-08-2005, 06:44 PM

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Originally Posted by ninty9

I've asked girls that I didn't know out right away. Maybe talked to them for about 2 minutes before hand. It works most of the time because I think most people don't want to say no because they'll hurt your feelings, unless you look like a total loser then the girls will say no because they fear for their safety.

Ask her if she wants to go for some coffee on her break or something.

I dont look like a total loser, so I guess I have that going for me biggrin:

Eight Ace · 03-08-2005, 06:50 PM

have you smiled at each other or held a glance or
anything that makes you think she might be interested?

lol @ "feeling her out"...second date maybe cool:

1080jibber · 03-08-2005, 07:07 PM

[quote="Eight Ace":838ce]have you smiled at each other or held a glance or
anything that makes you think she might be interested?

lol @ "feeling her out"...second date maybe cool:[/quote:838ce]

No, I was in FutureShop like a week ago and thought she was hot, and I would like to get to know her, but I really didnt think of that stuff until I left the store. But since im going back, I think its my time to make some kind of move.

ninty · 03-08-2005, 07:11 PM

There's no harm in trying. And if you don't, you might regret it saying "man I could be banging that hot future shop biach". The worst she can say is no, and then you'd be in the same position you were in before you asked her. Just punch her if she says no then you'll feel better, but I bet she'll say yes. I know you are sexy.

Jotun · 03-08-2005, 07:19 PM

as much as i would like to help you, asking for girl advice on THIS forum especially is pointless, you actually think most of us have lives? im lucky enough to have a gf...

Coleman · 03-08-2005, 07:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Jotun

as much as i would like to help you, asking for girl advice on THIS forum especially is pointless, you actually think most of us have lives? im lucky enough to have a gf...

speak for yourself bucko biggrin:

tomxtr · 03-08-2005, 07:32 PM

Dude, you are in a tough position. You walk a fine line of looking interested or looking like a stalker. Chicks like a guy with confidence and who are sure of themselves. If you go back, buy something small and wait until there are no other people in line so you won't be rushed. Then, mention that you noticed her last time you were in there. Tell her that she is very attractive and ask her if she's got a boyfriend. There's nothing wrong with that. If she's not interested, she'll lie and say yes and it saves you the trouble of asking. If she says no, that means she would be willing to go out with you so just ask. Don't lurk around scoping her out and making multiple visits. Just do it. Good luck. beer:

Trunks · 03-08-2005, 07:35 PM

what i would do is try to start a decent convo with her, ask for her help with something digress a bit, etc. Then casually, but not forcefully, say something like, "hey if ur not busy tommorrow would u like to get some food," or something to that extent.