[anti]

alot of good recommendations and awesome advice. this whole thing has been going on for a couple of years now, and i'm getting sick of it. i've been trying to keep myself busy, playing alot of counterstrike source and mohaa, along with doing photoshop/photography work. i haven't been smoking pot for a long time, but i have been drinking heavily. i really want to get into excercising but i'm just too lazy. i'll just keep at things, i think it's all rooted in my problems with my exgirlfriend and what's been lost between us and in my life.

Originally Posted by Ferich

Have you tried adding humor to your unwanted thoughts? Obviously you know they're outlandish and too crazy to come true

i try, but i fail. that's the thing though, as outlandish as some of them may be it seems somewhat sensible in your head at the time.

Originally Posted by Tripper

I used to just sit and wonder which one of my friends would be most likely to sleep with my girl behind my back.

i was and still am exactly the same with my ex. it doesn't make things easier when alot of my friends do try to pick her up when they know how i feel about her; but at times i'm unsure if i'm just tricking myself into thinking they are or if infact they actually are trying. either way, i think love will always have the deepest impact on one's self, which only makes it the easiest target for this kind of behaviour.

Originally Posted by Arkan

Perhaps you need to alter your lifestyle slightly. Sometimes doing something new alltogether is all you need to change the way you think.

i've been thinking about that. i've been wanting to set alot of routines for myself and do alot more for me rather than just being lazy. i want to get into reading, working out, talking more with friends and family, just being better to myself in general. i just turned 20 so i think it's about fucking time i get on track and stop jacking off to porn all day. a trip would also be nice, tokyo mmm... happy:


group hug everyone happy:

[Tripper]

Originally Posted by Judas

honestly i dont think it has all that much to do with whats going on in your life and more to do with the way youre living it. diet, exercise, and sleep. ive read it time and time again and it never sunk in. i think most people just give up on it because it doesnt work right way. i swear to christ if you stick with it youll feel 120% better about everything going on with you. the more you exercise the easier it is to fall asleep, and get better sleep. the better you eat the more you can exercise. cut the bad shit out of your life and youll start feeling better.

you cant really write off any emotional responses as being due solely to things like diet and exercise...We dont know whats going on in antis life, or anything about his diet and sleeping patterns (well i do because i watch him sleeping) so it could be anything...
But yeah I'd say diet, sleep and exercise can definitely amplify things that might not be as bad under different circumstances....

[Judas]

i didnt really mean to generalize. i was just suggesting that better life choices would lead to a greater ability to cope, no matter what the problem.

[anti]

Originally Posted by Judas

i didnt really mean to generalize. i was just suggesting that better life choices would lead to a greater ability to cope, no matter what the problem.

i can see that. even if you don't recieve much physical benefit from it, the fact that you know you're making the right decisions and doing better for yourself is going to have some sort of positive affect.

[CoMaToSe]

Well I have a lot of the problems you have, that really affect my social life. Every social encounter I go into, I automatically assume the worst, that this person is not going to like me, or these people arent going to like me. So then I either: a) avoid these people altogether, so they dont like me, or b) try too hard to get them to like me, which generally leads to people not liking me.

I dont know how to 'be myself' around people because I have no faith in who I am, and it is a very small group of close friends who know the 'real' me.

So here, as a result, I have no close friends. Nobody I feel comfortable as me. SO now I'm pretty socially isolated, and have lost the motivation to just DO stuff.

My relationship with my parents is falling down, I talk to my mom on the phone and just wait for the conversation to end. I stopped working out and eating well. Im scared to death of gaining back my weight. Im losing my true self.

[gtboys34]

anti, did you ever try the thing at the atm on campus?

[Doctor Duffy]

Originally Posted by CoMaToSe

Well I have a lot of the problems you have, that really affect my social life. Every social encounter I go into, I automatically assume the worst, that this person is not going to like me, or these people arent going to like me. So then I either: a) avoid these people altogether, so they dont like me, or b) try too hard to get them to like me, which generally leads to people not liking me.

I dont know how to 'be myself' around people because I have no faith in who I am, and it is a very small group of close friends who know the 'real' me.

So here, as a result, I have no close friends. Nobody I feel comfortable as me. SO now I'm pretty socially isolated, and have lost the motivation to just DO stuff.

My relationship with my parents is falling down, I talk to my mom on the phone and just wait for the conversation to end. I stopped working out and eating well. Im scared to death of gaining back my weight. Im losing my true self.

Hey, just so you know, this thread doesnt really involve you.

[Tripper]

Originally Posted by CoMaToSe

Well I have a lot of the problems you have, that really affect my social life. Every social encounter I go into, I automatically assume the worst, that this person is not going to like me, or these people arent going to like me. So then I either: a) avoid these people altogether, so they dont like me, or b) try too hard to get them to like me, which generally leads to people not liking me.

I dont know how to 'be myself' around people because I have no faith in who I am, and it is a very small group of close friends who know the 'real' me.

So here, as a result, I have no close friends. Nobody I feel comfortable as me. SO now I'm pretty socially isolated, and have lost the motivation to just DO stuff.

My relationship with my parents is falling down, I talk to my mom on the phone and just wait for the conversation to end. I stopped working out and eating well. Im scared to death of gaining back my weight. Im losing my true self.

This is something totally different - You can't compare your lack of social skills to anti's feelings of general negativity. Ridiculous. You fat fatty.

[Hawke]

Originally Posted by CoMaToSe

I stopped working out

lol

[anti]

Originally Posted by gtboys34

anti, did you ever try the thing at the atm on campus?

i was busted, had to spend a night in jail.

[eeves]

lol i normally just laugh out loud and i try voluntarily to think of something worst or funnier


I dont think coma s opinion is completly different from anti s. He is being negative by "assuming the worst" before meeting a person which lead him into being a pussy and hidding in a closet.

[Merlin122]

personally, i find pessimism can help if its fairly controlled. I allow myself to be pessimistic in my own inner monollogue. When i concieve the worst of a situation and the worst doesn't happen (98% of the time) i think i've come out ahead. This lets me realize that nothing is totally negligible and lets me have a better day.

[CoMaToSe]

Originally Posted by Tripper

This is something totally different - You can't compare your lack of social skills to anti's feelings of general negativity. Ridiculous. You fat fatty.

annoy:

[CoMaToSe]

[quote="Doctor Duffy":90494]

Originally Posted by CoMaToSe

Well I have a lot of the problems you have, that really affect my social life. Every social encounter I go into, I automatically assume the worst, that this person is not going to like me, or these people arent going to like me. So then I either: a) avoid these people altogether, so they dont like me, or b) try too hard to get them to like me, which generally leads to people not liking me.

I dont know how to 'be myself' around people because I have no faith in who I am, and it is a very small group of close friends who know the 'real' me.

So here, as a result, I have no close friends. Nobody I feel comfortable as me. SO now I'm pretty socially isolated, and have lost the motivation to just DO stuff.

My relationship with my parents is falling down, I talk to my mom on the phone and just wait for the conversation to end. I stopped working out and eating well. Im scared to death of gaining back my weight. Im losing my true self.

Hey, just so you know, this thread doesnt really involve you.[/quote:90494]
well I knew I wouldnt be able to start my own serious thread about this, so I thought Id try to catch a ride on this one.

[lasagna]

i feel you anti for sure.... whenever im sober its not so bad, but when i smoke my paranoia gets outta control. its insane